The title of this article may seem a little contentious as divorce is generally a very difficult and painful time for the parties involved, especially if there are children. So even when a divorce may seem like the “right” thing to do, it is often the hardest thing to do.
Divorce can, however, be done well and in a mature way, putting the children’s needs first is what’s most important.
How can a separating couple embrace a child-focused approach to separation?
As a starting point, seek legal advice at the earliest opportunity. Every family and relationship is different and professional advice delivered early can help you think through your options and decide which process or combination of processes would be most suitable.
You can make the most of mediation to work towards a cooperative separation. This alternative dispute resolution has been found to settle disputes faster and helps to resolve a tense and emotional situation. Parties often find that they achieve a WIN:WIN outcome as it is mutually agreed between the parties.
Keep open and ongoing communication with your ex-partner. An open and honest dialogue promotes improved communication and understanding. You don’t stop being a parent just because you’re no longer a couple, so try to foster positive co-parenting. You may wish to begin drawing up a co-parenting plan for the future, and be prepared to be flexible, compromise, and alter your arrangements as your children’s needs change. As a separating parent, you don’t have the option to simply walk away from your family and your situation. Work together with your ex and take responsibility for building a positive future for your children, and you’ll find that “good divorce”.
Parties can sometimes lose sight of what is important, which can lead to entrenched positions and protracted disputes. This can take its toll both emotionally and financially. Ideally, both the adults and the children should emerge from a divorce emotionally unscathed by the process. The way in which this can be achieved is through support to deal with matters pragmatically and in a constructive way.
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