Evidence Parents Can Use to Defend Allegations and How to Present It

Emma Stamp

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In family proceedings, good evidence is the backbone of a persuasive case. Courts make welfare decisions based on facts, not feelings or the wants of parents. Collecting relevant material and presenting it clearly will help the court understand the context and assess risk proportionately.

The most useful evidence is that which directly addresses disputed events or patterns of behaviour. Communications such as text messages, WhatsApp exchanges, and emails can demonstrate tone, frequency, and logistics. Timing evidence, call logs or phone location data, may corroborate or refute key claims. Third‑party statements from neighbours, friends, or family can assist if they are specific and credible; avoid sweeping commentary or attempts to prove character. Official records carry particular weight: police incident numbers, GP notes, and school records provide contemporaneous data points that are difficult to argue with. Photographs or recordings should only be used where lawful and proportionate, and the original files should be preserved. Covert recordings should be avoided.

Presentation matters as much as content. Organise your material chronologically and link exhibits to particular allegations. Include a simple timeline that highlights dates and events relevant to the dispute. Label exhibits so the court can navigate easily and refer to them in your statement with short, neutral descriptions. Authenticity is vital: avoid edits, preserve originals, and ensure that anything you disclose is complete and accurate. Transparency builds credibility, selective disclosure undermines it.

Balance your bundle by including items that are neutral as well as those that support your case. Courts are reassured by parents who provide full context rather than only favourable snippets. Alongside evidence addressing the allegations, include examples of safe parenting: records of attendance at medical or school appointments, evidence of age‑appropriate activities during contact, and notes that show consistent, child‑focused communication.

A solicitor can help you triage what genuinely assists, ensure lawful gathering, and refine your statement so it is persuasive without being voluminous. The goal is not to overwhelm the court but to illuminate the key issues with reliable, relevant material. In most cases, a clear, disciplined bundle paired with a measured statement is far more effective than hundreds of pages of loosely related documents.

How we can help

Navigating this process alone is daunting. As a specialist family solicitor, I can guide you through every stage, from responding to allegations and preparing evidence to proposing practical, child-centred solutions. My goal is to protect your relationship with your child while ensuring the process is fair and proportionate.

If you’re unsure about how to structure your statement or have had allegations made, don’t wait. Early advice can make all the difference.

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Emma Riding is a Senior Associate in our Family Law team, specialising in working with clients to resolve issues relating to divorce and separation, including finance and private children’s arrangements.

If you need advice on any family law-related matter, please contact us and we will be happy to discuss your circumstances in more detail and give you more information about the services that our family law solicitors can provide along with details of our hourly rates and fixed fee services.

Please call Emma or another member of our team in DerbyLeicester or Nottingham on 0800 024 1976 or contact us via our online form.

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